Healthy boundaries are important for our wellbeing. Unfortunately, we often set aside our boundaries for "justifiable" reasons. We may do this for certain people or to fulfill an "expectation."
Were you taught that self-sacrifice is the only way to show love to others or dedication to your work?
Notice when your "should" thoughts are cutting holes in your boundaries.
For example:
- "I should help them out this time."
- "I shouldn't have been so harsh, by saying no."
- "I should take one for the team."
Healthy boundaries allow us to choose when and where to spend our energy.
A helpful reframe can be to make decisions based on what is healthiest for you. In any situation, ask yourself, "what's the healthiest decision I can make right now?"
Your call to action:
- Focus on your health.
- Catch and challenge your negative thoughts.
- Protect your time, energy, and wellbeing.
- Remember that saying "no" is important and your right.